blog

Most North Korean Refugees Are Women. Here’s Why.

December 17, 2019
haejung_sue_blog
Hae Jung (pictured right) escaped North Korea and lived in hiding with her daughter in China until their rescue through LiNK's networks.

Over 33,000 North Korean refugees have made it safely to South Korea. 70% of them are female.

Why?

Firstly, North Korea is both politically and culturally very patriarchal, so women traditionally have a lower status than men, and are actually less tightly controlled by the North Korean system. Starting from the famine of the 1990s, North Korean women had to exploit their official status as “housewives” to engage in private market activities and become the breadwinners to ensure their family’s survival.

This combination of a new found economic role, relatively more mobility, and increased independence led more North Korean women to seek further economic opportunities in China (sometimes with an intention to stay temporarily and return, and sometimes as a more permanent move).

There was also a perception among North Koreans that women would have a better chance of being able to stay under the radar and work informally in China, for instance in restaurants or textile factories. This has in fact been borne out in reality, and there is another more tragic factor pulling North Korean women into China—a demand for North Korean brides among unmarried Chinese men, and a broader demand for North Korean women in the Chinese sex industry (including brothels and online sex chat rooms). This demand is driven by a lack of marriage-aged women particularly in rural Northeast China, a result of China’s ‘one child policy’ and the migration of young Chinese women to the cities.

Regardless of the reason behind their initial escape into China, a higher proportion of women getting out of the country translates to a female majority making it all the way to South Korea.

Another reason that might be thought to hold North Korean men back is that they are tied up in military service for much of their 20s, which is a prime age for defection. Not only do men have less freedom when they are in the military, but they are also often relocated to the interior of the country away from the border with China, decreasing their chances of escape. However this does not exactly play out in the demographic data for arrivals of North Korean refugees in South Korea, which shows no spike in the female to male ratio of refugees in their 20s, so it is hard to say how big of a factor this is.

Finally, anecdotally, it seems that some North Korean women may be more likely to be motivated to make the journey to South Korea after watching dramas and films that are smuggled into North Korea on USBs and Micro-SD cards. North Korean women have told us that visions of life in South Korea where women have much greater freedom in self expression and fashion, and are granted higher status and respect—especially by the romantic heartthrobs of your typical K-drama—fueled their fantasies of life beyond North Korea’s borders and were a significant factor in their decision to escape.

blog_HyeonseoTED_1
North Korean Advocate Hyeonseo Lee speaks from the TED stage (image credit TED)

Among the more than twenty thousand female North Koreans who have made it all the way to safe resettlement in South Korea have emerged some of the most effective advocates for the North Korean people. Several North Korea-born women have written books, and are increasingly giving the issue a human face on South Korean television and to audiences around the world.

blog_OOWTMY(ebuk7do.co_pic)_1
Resettled North Korean women appear on South Korea's popular TV program "Now on My Way to Meet You" (image credit Ebuk7do)

These advocates, and hundreds of other North Korean women who have quietly strived to successfully resettle and bring their children and other family members to South Korea, are among the people that we’ve been able to support and work with because of your commitment to stand alongside the North Korean people.

So on International Women’s Day, we salute the North Korean women who have been able to emerge as a force of progress despite being born in the most repressive country in the world, and we salute our sisters and brothers around the world who continue to believe in and support them.

- Sokeel Park, Director of Research & Strategy

Remembering North Korea: Today, I’m Happy Because I Can Have Ice Cream

June 2, 2026

By: Hyeyoung Woon

Hyeyong escaped from North Korea in 2009. She currently works as a financial accountant, and strives to grow her ability as a storyteller and writer to share her personal experiences as a North Korean defector.

[Photo via Korea JooAng Daily] 

There are days when happiness feels complicated.
And then there are days when it feels very simple.

For me, sometimes, it is just ice cream.

When I was young in North Korea, ice cream was very different.
We had “eoreum bosunge” which is sweet pink water frozen in a small metal can with a stick inside. It was icy and rough, and the taste was so strong. That was all I knew.

But everything changed on my first day in South Korea.

I went to a small neighborhood store with my mom and that was where I first saw an ice cream called “Pure Milk”.

At that time, I had just started becoming interested in the English language, so maybe that is why the name catch my eyes

I picked it up and took a bite. 

And honestly, it felt like a different world.

It was soft, smooth, and full of real milk flavor.
Until then, ice cream had only meant frozen sweet water to me. I did not know something so simple could taste so real.

After that day, I kept choosing the same ice cream again and again.

Of course, now I know there are more expensive and famous ice creams in the world and, just like that, my life has changed too.

But maybe that is why I still choose Pure Milk.

Not because it is the best,
But because it reminds me of who I used to be.

When I first came to South Korea, everything felt new and exciting.
And little by little, this new world made me forget the old one.

Maybe that is part of growing up.
Or maybe it is part of learning how to survive in a new society.

But sometimes, I become afraid that my old memories are slowly fading away too.

That is why small things like this ice cream still matter to me.

They remind me of where I started.
They help me keep a part of myself that I do not want to lose.

And I still want to remember the girl who once believed pink frozen water was enough to be called ice cream.

Hyeyoung is a participant of the LiNK English Language Program (LELP), which serves to not only help North Korean defectors build confidence and skills in English, but develop their capacity as advocates for this issue. To that end, we partnered with select LELP “columnists” to write and polish personal essays through multiple rounds of external feedback and revision. Our goal is to have more North Koreans share their stories directly and lead efforts to change the narrative.

We believe the North Korean people can achieve their liberty in our lifetime

Opportunities like LELP invest in the people building that future now. Help more North Koreans find their voice, reach their goals, and lead change on this issue.

Give Today.

Your generous donation will rescue and support North Korean refugees
Donate Now
Learn more about the North Korean people
Awesome! You're subscribed!
Oh no! Looks like something went wrong.
Check these out!
Stand with the north korean people

Join Liberty and give monthly in support of the North Korean people

The logo for Refinery29A logo for CNNThe logo for Fox NewsThe logo for Time MagazineThe Logo for the Washington PostThe logo for National Public Radio